A woman can propose to a man and tell him I want to marry you – Aisha Yesufu
Nigerian socio-political activist, Aisha Yesufu, has advised young unmarried women to normalise walking up to men and asking them out or proposing to them instead of waiting on men to make the offer while they age.
She said this during an interview with BBC Pidgin.
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“Go there and ‘toast’ him yourself. A woman can propose to a man and tell him I want to marry you. Go there and ask him yourself. People sit down clocking 30, 40, and going over 50 while waiting for a man to come and ask them out. How? Even if you are older than him, it won’t spoil anything because marriage is a serious business so you shouldn’t be waiting for “anyone that calls me.
She also opened up about her marriage and how she wooed her husband, Aliu.
During the interview, Ms Yesufu described herself as a “control freak,” saying she has always been the one to approach men.
Ms Yesufu, who is a co-convener of the Bring Back Our Girls campaign, revealed that she had never been in a relationship where the man asked her out.
“I like to be in charge of everything I am involved in. I have never been in any relationship that I didn’t initiate myself. I don’t do relationships where the guy comes and say I like you and all of that.
“In a lot of instances, I have been rejected. The most hurtful one happened when I was in secondary school. What Uche did to me was very painful. I wrote him a letter to ask him out and he replied that he wasn’t interested because he wanted to focus on school. Guess what happened, everybody in the class read that letter before I did. They laughed at me, it was painful but it didn’t stop me,” she said.
The mother-of-two also revealed that her controlling attitude encouraged her to approach her husband and present herself to him as “his wife” before they got married.